I wrote this several weeks ago, and although I've got Facebook under control now, I still thought sending this email would be useful. In part because I went to play a computer game on Saturday and noticed some of the same feelings I describe below.

I got Facebook under control by pulling back, visiting it less, and putting my ass where my heart wants to be.

I think the same approach will be useful in dealing with computer games. I sometimes want to play. And then I keep playing in order to finish a mission even after the desire is gone.

The other thing that really helps is that I've noticed that my thinking isn't that straight in the moment. So I need to create rules. And in the moment when I go to take the path of least resistance I remember that a more rested, more resourced, more perceptive me had already decided what was best for me in this moment.

And I follow the rules I've set for myself.

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Why do we do things that are bad for us?

Why do I do things that are bad for me?

I know how I feel after I check Facebook. Sort of gross. Icky. Sad.

And yet, every time I tell myself - "This time will be different. You're only logging in to check X. As soon as you've done it, you'll sign out. ... Well, you know you're a bit addicted. But you manage it well. And this time, you're going to manage it really well. You can't just leave Facebook anyway, you need it for your business."

And is it ever different? Some times I guess.

Some times I don't feel icky. Just blah. And rarely, rarely, I feel happy and uplifted. But that's what keeps me coming back.

I'm settling into a new routine, and when I do, I'm going to create some new rules to fence it in.

And what about you?

What are you doing in your own life that you know better?

Where you tell yourself:

"Just this time..."
"This time will be different..."
"I don't need it. I could stop whenever..."

Let me know. I'm interested to hear your perspective.

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