Saying Your Peace (a note from the heart)
From my morning pages this week, an unexpected typo sparked something:
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I feel better now that I said my peace.
That typo was not on purpose. But how right is it? I said my peace. I will claim it.It's not a license to spew our 'truth' over everyone, but sometimes, especially with a loved one, you can't live a lie. The key is first to pause and see what's your stuff, and what's theirs. Do you need them to react a certain way or see you a certain way? That might be YOUR shit.
Are you just holding a healthy aligned boundary? That might be a truth.
BUT, you also don't get to control their response. And if there are certain responses you're not okay with, then maybe THAT'S the conversation.
... in my dream last night I got the clear direction that you're truth will set you free."
Be your truth. Say your peace.
If we all said our piece all the time, it would undermine our relationships. We all have our shit. And one of the kindest things you can do for someone you love is to handle yours without saddling them with it.
When you're saying your piece, you're probably just saddling them with your shit.
When you're saying your peace, you're living your truth and helping them see their own shit.
The hard part is figuring out whether it's your piece or your peace. In that respect, putting a little space in between the incident and the interaction can help it trend towards peace rather than piece.
Paul
PS. The final thing I wanted to note was the (also accidental 😬😁) typo in the last line. "You're truth will set you free." When you are your truth, you're free. Be your truth — not your shit. You got this! 😊
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