I have a confession: I'm a Brené Brown fanboy.

Although I haven't read everything she's written, I'm pretty much in love with the shit that I have read. Needless to say, it's been very influential on me.

So when she came out with a book about leadership, I knew I had to read it.

And man is Dare to Lead dense!

It took me a while to read it because I wanted to (needed to) take my time with it. I just couldn't read it faster because it was all good stuff that I wanted to read.

Despite how full the book was of amazing stuff, picking my biggest takeaway was easy.

I've always wondered why I trust some people and not others.

In particular (and even more confusing) is when I actually like someone but won't trust them with my secrets.

Brené broke down "trust" into 7 factors.

The higher you are in each of these factors, the more likely people are to trust you. And if people don't think you're that trustworthy, do an honest self-assessment and ask yourself what you need to do better in.

These are the factors (links below are to tiny youtube videos I did for each of these factors):

Boundaries - you respect my boundaries
Reliability - you do what you'll say
Accountability - you own your mistakes, apologize, and make amends
Vault - don't share what isn't yours to share
Integrity - you choose courage over comfort (you practice your values)
Non-Judgment - you don't judge me
Generosity - you assume the best of others (and their intentions)

If you do any one of these well, it's not going to guarantee that I trust you. But if you do any of them poorly, I probably won't trust you with my secrets.

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Biggest takeaway: Dare To Lead by Brené Brown