Project Unf*ckwithable 💙
"I was so focused on all the things. Building the business. Working out. I was go, go, go." 💪 Carol Elizabeth said from the stage at DestinyFest. An emphatic gesture emphasized her point. "There was a big calendar on the wall, with all of the things for us to do, and the days slashed out as they passed." ❌
"And then, after my cancer diagnosis, I looked at that calendar." Tears were welling up and her voice was choking. "How dare I treat those days as slashes."
Damn, that resonated.
I've had too many days where my focus was just surviving. It was about making it through the weekdays to the weekend, and then making it through the weekend to the weekdays. Trying to get enough done, trying to avoid temper tantrums and blow-ups. 😔
Treating life as if I just needed to get the things done, rather than actually live it.
I'm done with that.
As I sit here in the aftermath of Destinyfest, one thing is clear, I am committed to growth and becoming the man I am. Enter:
💙🧡 PROJECT UNF*CKWITHABLE
I've long been jealous of monks who can disappear to the woods to meditate and be calm, whereas I live in a maelstrom of kids and work. But I've realized that this isn't a problem, but a path to the solution. I don't need to get rid of the maelstrom to be calm, I will be calm in the maelstrom.
Project Unf*ckwithable is about being the calm in the storm. Totally trigger-free parenting. Master level zen. Basically, about being so strong in my own frame that nothing can fuck with me, not failure, not worry, not temper tantrums, and not my inner critic.
I imagine that overwriting decades of programming and default behaviours won't happen overnight, so I'm giving myself until December 31, 2025.
I don't yet know how.
But I believe I can do it.
And, though I feel vulnerable doing it, I believe I should share with you both my commitment and my progress.
Yes, I'm working on other things. Still writing The Successful Associate, working with clients, and delivering workshops. And I suspect that how I show up may be the most important variable for the continued growth of all those things - so Project Unf*ckwithable will be my main focus for the next few months as I weave in and out of everything else.
I’d love to hear if you’ve ever felt this same pull — find me on linkedin and let me know.
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